If Blaire Is The Love Guru, Why Isn't She Married?

Hi Friends!
This is a great question - and it's something that you probably wonder about
(I've gotten it asked a bunch through email too!)

Well, my answer to you is long overdue.

I've shared the reasons - - or actually the mind shift that I've gone through with you casually over the last year, but here I will share with you completely.

As many of you know (except of course the new subscribers and there have been a lot of you, I'm so glad you're here - welcome again!) I put up www.marryblaire.com almost 4 years ago, searching for my "One"

This is all I wanted - for my whole life... to find "HIM"

Through that website (which is now designed differently) I learned a lot of lessons.

Mainly, to be true to myself. For years I was quiet about my desire to find love, I didn't tell guys that I wanted to get married - because I was always afraid that I would scare them away. I was afraid of getting hurt. I was afraid of having a "deep talk" with a guy, cause I didn't want to rush or force things. I was filled with a lot of anxiety trying to not mess things up.

That never worked for me and I wanted a new way of doing things. Actually, it was more than wanting a new way of doing things - I really needed it. I was miserable.

Surprisingly what I learned through the www.marryblaire.com website was that when I shared my true desire with the world - and with men. That when I was true to my heart and spoke my truth, that instead of pushing and scaring men away - it actually drew them closer to me. Big time!

This was a huge lesson for me and something I teach to you guys. How to have the strength, the courage and the faith to share what's in your heart... fearlessly. To be proud of who you are - and truly let yourself shine.

Over the last (almost) 4 years I got in several serious / marriage minded relationships.

Met great guys

Dating great guys

And was true to my heart - -and spoke my truth in all of the relationships.

If you have been reading my blog and following my story for some time now, you most likely know about my love relationship with "Sweet Kisses"

He was my "One". We instantly hit it off. The relationship matched on so many levels. We had many things in common, he intrigued me, we grew together, we moved in together...and for all intensive purposes we were married.

Yep, since Day 1, we had a deep intimate relationship - - like I would have with my husband.

We used to call each other this and our communication was amazing.

It's been over a year that we've been broken up.

He was my "One" then, but then we grew apart.
Things happen and that's life.

You match with someone perfectly for a period of time, you grow from one another, you support one another, you love one another...and you do that all whole heartedly.

Did we plan to grow apart? No. Of course not.
Did it happen? Yes.
Was it upsetting? Sure, of course. You get in a routine, you get comfortable with someone, you enjoy having someone in your life, and you love someone.

But then you move on.

To me, this is how life is.
Sure, we could have made the choice to still stay together.

We still love one another, but what changed is I fell out of love with him.
Sure, I could have made the decision to keep loving him - and I do... but I also chose me and the dedication to my path, my journey, and the dreams I have.

To me this is more important, to stay in the flow. To keep moving, when you know a relationship or a situation no longer works for you.

It may sound cold to you, but it really isn't.

Again, I still have love for him. He was my husband and he was my One. I'm also very grateful for him in my life because so much good came out of our being together.

He was on my path and we were meant to be together.

Now, this takes strength. It takes a strong connection to yourself, to honor your path.
It takes courage. It wasn't easy saying goodbye to my best friend for almost 2 years, but again it had to be done.

There are plenty of people in this world that stay in relationships long after "the flow" has left. Long after the relationship has served them and too long - as they start hating one another.

We both didn't want that for one another. We honored our union, thanked the Universe, thanked one another - and blessed one another for the next step on our journey.

Now again I know this may be unconventional - but this is my journey. This is my path and it's way more important to me to be true to myself and follow the flow than to stick with something for the sake of my ego.

So now onto the question that I know is on a lot of your minds.... "If Blaire is the Love Guru, Why Isn't She Married?"

Well, the reason for that quite simply - for right now, I don't want to be.

I'm in this stage of my life, that I've never been before that I'm having a really fabulous time with all the love around me. I'm having fun being free. I'm having fun flowing with life. Every day of mine is a really wonderful adventure and I meet men (and people) everywhere I go, that help me along my way. To me that's very fun.

I'm also at a stage of my life that I'm going through a very big transition - - as I'm moving across the country (hint, hint... can you make a better guess as to where I'm moving now? I will announce it in July)

This is taking a lot of energy. It's very exciting, a bit scary - - but it's something I am doing for myself - and it's an adventure I want to take by myself. Sure I have helpers along my way, the Universe always helps me out that way (you too!) but it's something that I'd like to experience myself. That I can do it. That I can move to my dream land - that I can be successful at it, and to totally live it up.

I also want to explore my new land - and all the men I meet there.
I am learning so much about myself - - SO MUCH - and I am starting to just realize all my gifts. (Are you aware of all your beautiful gifts that you have to offer this world).

I am noticing how playful I am. How full of life I am. How curious about the world I am. How adventurous I am. How flirty I am... and how much confidence I have.

I am learning more and more to enjoy life. I have been enjoying life. Every day I get to goof around with someone, make someone laugh, smile at a new friend, waive to a new guy, give a compliment and make someone feel good.

I am so flirty - and it feels wonderful. I am really loving it.

I also have learned that the "gotta get married girl" (as Inside Edition titled me) was something all that I knew growing up. It was all I saw and all I knew. You grow up, you find your "One", you get married, have kids, join the country club, be part of the PTA, and live happily ever after.

I realized that's not really me. Sure I do have thoughts of that...and sure I will experience it, if I so choose too, but it's not the dream I have for life.

My dream is to travel the world. To live all over the world. To live large(r), to grow, to explore, to be creative, to be free...and to love. To love everyone.

I used to look at love as something I only got from a mate. That it was on limited supply - just from him. But I've learned that I get that love from everyone. I get it from you...and I thank you for it.

I'm also really enjoying being free, flirting with lots of men, and playing with them.

I never realized I was so carefree and free spirited, but I really am.

These have all been gifts.

I also realized that finding "the One" is no big deal. I guess it's one of those things that you want so badly when you can't have it - but then once you get it, it's no biggie.

Well, for me it used to be really hard to "get it right". I had a lot of struggle and a lot of pain with finding a man and getting the relationship that I wanted. This has all changed for me - and I'm grateful for it. So again, if/when I decide I'd like something "serious" I know exactly how to get it.

That's what I teach you guys.

For now, playful, fun, flirty romance with lots of men is for me.
Again, this is what my soul wants right now and I'm honoring it.

The last thing I wanted to share with you guys, is a huge thing that I learned - and that's the idea, concept - the truth - that the "One" that you are searching for out there - - is really the you, in there. The "One" is you and I have gratefully found her, fell in love with her, and married her. This is a wonderful experience that I'm enjoying now.

I hope that answers your question and if not, shoot me an email or leave a message below.

Love to you my friends!

Wishing you the best in love,
Blaire Allison
The Love Guru

PS: This Thursday, June 26th - Phone Teleclass - Learn a New Way to Date: Trying Too Hard vs Flow Dating. Sign up here

PSS: This past weekend, quite magically, I met a new man who is truly an angel. I'm having a lot of fun flirting with him - and I will tell you about him shortly...